Painful gifts

Charity.  Receiving can be painful, even when not intended by the giver.  Winning on a lottery ticket is one thing, no guilt attached, getting something free by well intention-ed givers is quite another.  The giver by no means intends to hurt, that is not their intent, but to the receiver, it can and does.   The receivers are grateful but with feelings of guilt and unwarranted shame.   That self esteem and personal pride keep kicking in.  Human nature I guess. We're stuck with it and rightly so.  I don't have the answer.  Just food for thought.........................marge